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Aww. Why the hating on Noodles?

save me kimiko ;-;

In retrospect Kino, tell him, if he ever fucking forgets your anniversary after setting such a crude date, Hitler will be no comparison to the things you will do to him.


On the subject of marriages...

I'm a little upset. So, my 23 year old baby sister is now engaged. I think the guy is alright. Meh, the past few weeks we've been in a stressful situation since they decided to move, their plan backfired, and now they are living in our house, pitbull dog and all. Tia has never gotten along that WELL with mom. They are so fucking similar in personalities that it's unreal. This is why she moved out and now she's resentful she has to move back in and mom's not making it any easier and meh... heads collide and there's been a bunch of petty, shitty arguments. And mom keeps worrying about them because she wants her daughter to go to college and she's worried that the two of them will not get themselves back through college, which just annoys the hell out of Tia who is like "MOM STOP BITCHING AT ME!! I WILL GO BACK EVENTUALLY!!" and poor Nate/fiance is frequently caught up in the middle of these vicious arguments.

So, anyways, Tia and Nate went out drinking yesterday. She got pretty hammered. We get a call about 12 last night saying she was having trouble breathing and well, long story short, we ended up spending the next two hours in the ER for something that amounted to A) she's hammered B) there's a minor stomach virus going around that even caused me to go home from work yesterday and it seems she has it. and C) she gets sick so FUCKING RARELY that when she does she... dramatizes it... baddly. This was compounded by the booze.

While there we discover the engagement ring she has been hiding from us.

I don't mind if she marries Nate. I think he's got his issues and I think she can do better but honestly that night I got drunk on my birthday I remember distinctly (and we laugh about it frequently now and again) that I threatened him that if he ever broke my sister's heart I would seriously fuck him over.

That is me and my sister. I thought we were very tight and close to each other.
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So... to discover that she's been hiding her engagement to Nate... I'm... hurt. I dunno, I always imagined that the night she got a proposal would be the night she would rush in, wake me up, show off the ring, and we would sit and talk all excited and the next night or something I would take her out and we would celebrate and discuss more of the same shit.

<_< I've not talked to her yet this morning. I dunno what I should say or do. It feels awkward even especially after saying some not-so-nice things in an argument yesterday morning before work about her and Nate. Why wouldn't she include me in this?! She's been hiding it for two weeks! I feel like I've failed as a sister.

o__O

That paints the picture of a man I'd be wary of marrying my sister as well. Then again, a one-sided portrait of someone is never complimentary, but the two main elements (abuse issues turned into religious fervor and financial issues) are big, especially the latter. I hope your sister and her fiancé discuss financial matters before marriage -- that's like the number 1 reason people get divorced. I know that my fiancé and I have discussed how we will handle money in the relationship (joint checking/savings for "couple" money and essential bills, plus separate savings/checking accounts for money that we each get as "whatever" money out of the budget) and it works because I'm a spender and he's a saver. I just want to make sure there's room on the budget for my yaoi manga >__> I cannot live without books.

Anyway, it sounds like they pooled finances already, and that she needs to set them on a budget!

:\ I probably painted a pretty bad picture but he's actually a sweet guy. I don't think I managed to get that across since I was just listing his life story there.

... better than the other dead beats she's dated -_-; uhh... me and my sister's boyfriends have a LOOOOOOOOONG history... I might tell you one day if I'm ever bored enough.

The finances thing is what scares us all and I don't think it's "pooling the money" as much as it's Nate does groceries one week, the next is Tia's and rent was split in half. You have to remember, they were roommates BEFORE they dated.

x_x I have to keep that part out of my mind though. There were a few times Tia wanted to go out for the night because Nate was dating some girl that did pole-dancing and... uh... well... >_< she didn't want to be there to hear what went on in the bedroom. I keep forcing those mental images out of my mind. *sigh* -_-;

I dunno, just sometimes, I wonder if she really is "in love" with him or if she is just wanting to be married so bad she'll take anyone. I dunno... I hear you talk about your fiance Kino and I KNOW that you love him. There's just that feeling you get from words. I... just don't get that from Tia other than minor "isn't he such a great boyfriend?" vibes.

Of course, at the same time, I'll be the first to say that I'm the older sister, I love both of my sisters, and personally, I don't think any boy they bring home will ever be good enough for them. And... I don't date so this feeling is probably doubled since I just feel "isn't this a waste of time?"