Rant/Complain Thread: u mad?

[zamisk]

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[beekee]

I'm gone for a few days, and look what I miss!

First of all, Ry-chan, I'm so sorry that your dad said those things to you. It's never nice to hear that sort of thing, especially from your parents.

Anyway, I really sympathize with what you said about lacking motivation. It's very frustrating to think of all that you could do, or might even want to do, and yet feel like it is beyond your practical reach. If it helps you feel any better, I'm well into my twenties and I have yet to meet someone who hasn't struggled to some extent with finding what they want to do and sticking to it. I don't think there are many adults who simply knock down life goals as simply as bowling pins, one after another. Some people do pick a career or other pursuit and jump into it right after high school, but for these people trial and error usually follows even the most certain plans.

One of my best friends went right through with her education and career goals as soon as she decided it, and ended up with a useful degree and a fine job to go with it. However, years later she still ended up having to reexamine her life and realize that she wouldn't be able to accomplish everything she'd had on her list of life dreams. And this is a very determined, disciplined person.

Motivation has always been a problem for me, too. Many people, especially those who experience anxiety, depression, or high sensitivity, find themselves struggling to keep up with tasks throughout adolescence and young adulthood. They may feel distraught and stressed from the buildup of even non-threatening tasks, and start to feel like they want to get away from it all, turning to entertainment to feel a little better. As a result, parents or friends might develop an impression of someone who spends all their free time on games, anime, etc. But the reality is that even people who are considered over-achievers run into this very same problem.

You can't really force yourself to be motivated, because part of why it's so hard is the pressure involved. Does it feel like you're not even sure where to begin?

Everything Optional Boss said is right, and it does seem like your dad has some quite high expectations for you. It was sort of heartbreaking to read that you wanted this to be your best year yet, because the year after graduation is a big year for everyone and it's also very hard for almost everyone. It's extremely common to feel like you're in limbo at this point in your life - that's even true of kids who start college right away! It's just a part of emerging adulthood.

Ultimately, it's your life and you have to find what motivates you and what works as a good structure. When it comes to talking to your parents, it may help just to remind them that you really are trying, even if it doesn't always seem like it to them, but nothing is perfectly in a person's control. Even very talented people need to spend time looking out for opportunities as well as figuring out what they really want to pursue.

Also, I think it's worth mentioning how admirable it is that you stood by your commitment to your friend even with personal gain at stake, even if it was "only" a birthday. You were trying to give a happy day to a friend who otherwise has a difficult and stressful family environment. That's a sign of great character if anything, and I'd like to think your parents could be proud of that. Maybe you could mention to them next it comes up that this is why you did it.

[noodles]

Thank you for caring about me so much ;v;

Oh, but this isn't the year after graduation though. I graduated at 17. The year after graduation was one of the worst years of my life. I went to college, a bunch of shit hit me at once, and I ended up freaking out and dropping half of my stuff and buggering the rest. Except for my art 100 class, I still blame the teacher for what happened there.

[Kinokokao]

Going to college when you don't actually know what you want to do with yourself is a bad mistake a lot of people make.

Also fucking bullshit price-gouging greedy institutions that make you take 2+ years of general education university requirements when you just got done taking 4 fucking years of general education credits. University should be 2-3 years and be purely your upper division major-related courses.

If you're in fucking college and can't write a goddamn 5-paragraph essay than you should just kill yourself, or take remedial classes, or go back to high school and pay the fuck attention.

[scy]

[fauxsquared]

So I go into my local bookstore today. I saw they had fate stay night volume ten. I wanted to by it but the back cover had a crease in it. I hate it when others dont take care of books. Since I am playing the visual novel I decide to buy another manga by the artist who did girls bravo. The book I bought was Saving Life. ....UGH the book was horrible! I wasted monies! ( maybe I should return it?)

[Optional Boss]

[scy]

Yesterday I had an impromptu road trip to Houston to drop a friend off at the airport. I've rarely been and don't know my way but we has the [s]POWER OF SCIENCE[/s]GPS on our side.

After dropping my friend off and leaving the airport, my phone, and thus my GPS, died.

oboy.

[spoiler]Leaving Houston sucked, I suppose; once out it was like ... a straight shot basically but fuck man.[/spoiler]

[Kinokokao]

[Doktor_Q]

[Optional Boss]

[Weeaboolits]

[ZetaBladeX13]

[zamisk]

[SirthOsiris]

Using Ventrilo as a way to tell, my ping throughout the entire day averaged above 1000, spiking randomly to 10000.

I'm getting close to going to bed, and it's now dropping to semi-normal to normal levels.

Actually, now it's hovering at 1337.