And here I was to complain about my friend always being a dick when he dates someone /insignificant
... Well, I hope everything works out for you, Drathi.
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Well, I managed to get her boyfriend act as a temporary courier for me, telling his girlfriend I am seriously going to make it up to her. And I also asked her if she really wanted to test me by opening up communicaton and seeing my selfcontrol at work.
"Fuck no." it it in a nutshell. XD Well, actually that was what she said.It was worth a shot, but now I hve to work hard to win back her and her boyfriend's trust--for real now.
"Fuck no." it it in a nutshell. XD Well, actually that was what she said.It was worth a shot, but now I hve to work hard to win back her and her boyfriend's trust--for real now.
High School is irrelevant. Holy shit who cares. Yeah, maybe you leave there with a few friendships that last for life but, chances are, I doubt it. Less of an issue now with keeping tabs on old contacts being easier than ever (hi2u Facebook and other social networking sites) but still ultimately a meh.
Edit: Since it's necessary, this is more of a "don't stress out over it" thing. Shit happens, yeah, and it sucks. But don't bend over backwards to fix every little problem with every little person you know in High School. Ultimately, it's a small blip in your life and many of the connections may not last once you're done by virtue of where life takes you (i.e., which college/university you attend, if you do, etc.). Don't go crazy over High School drama.
College/University is far better. Well, sort of. It's more of the clean-slate deal with less awkward teenage years to make things stupider. An opportunity is there so use it. Make the best out of it.
There's no secret formula to friends (or relationships, despite what the internetz tells you). Put yourself out there. It's really as simple as that. "BUT TALKING TO PEOPLE IS SCARY" ... get over it. Nothing even major at all. Start small. Have the ability to just say hi to random people; talk about the weather or something stupid and mundane. You just need to be able to make words form and leave your mouth to another human being.
If need be, start smaller than that. Do you look down when you walk? Shy away from eye contact when walking by people? Stop that. Just ... stop that. You don't need to stare down people as they go by or even have a strut when you're out and about but, at the very least, look up. This says so much about you (as does many aspects of your body language) on the first glance level. Just have your head up. It's a simple thing. Eye contact is brief, maybe a head nod/smile/something but it's not necessary for random passerbys.
The key to basically everything (social) in life is just having some confidence about you. And if you don't, then bullshit that you do. Eventually the bullshit will become reality.
This is honestly one of the reasons why I love (loved?) my drinking and partying days. Say what you will about the act of drinking all you want, it's great for loosening people up. I've seen so many "MY FEET ARE SUPER INTERESTING" wallflowers fucking bloom just by virtue of getting drunk and giving absolutely no fucks about what they did and cut loose and were themselves (or some version of themselves, anyway). The pretenses are gone and they just don't what people think on what they do/say.
Really though, a lot of this is pointless if only because thinking about what you do is kind of the root of the problem. You get lost in the thinking process and over think what you say, how you say it, etc. Ultimately, just build up some confidence so you can be you.
[spoiler]Someone somewhere will take that drinking bit the wrong way I know it~
Don't mean stupid-drunk-shenanigans but more no-fear-shenanigans. And even that's kind of wrong. The fake self-confidence and ability to just talk, act, and enjoy themselves; to be someone that isn't shy and meek. And, eventually, that shy person vanishes even without the drinking. They gain the self-confidence to be themselves.
Not that I'm advocating drinking, just recounting things I remember from the last few years of my life and seeing people change over time.[/spoiler]
[spoiler]also don't listen to the internetz[/spoiler]
Edit: Since it's necessary, this is more of a "don't stress out over it" thing. Shit happens, yeah, and it sucks. But don't bend over backwards to fix every little problem with every little person you know in High School. Ultimately, it's a small blip in your life and many of the connections may not last once you're done by virtue of where life takes you (i.e., which college/university you attend, if you do, etc.). Don't go crazy over High School drama.
College/University is far better. Well, sort of. It's more of the clean-slate deal with less awkward teenage years to make things stupider. An opportunity is there so use it. Make the best out of it.
There's no secret formula to friends (or relationships, despite what the internetz tells you). Put yourself out there. It's really as simple as that. "BUT TALKING TO PEOPLE IS SCARY" ... get over it. Nothing even major at all. Start small. Have the ability to just say hi to random people; talk about the weather or something stupid and mundane. You just need to be able to make words form and leave your mouth to another human being.
If need be, start smaller than that. Do you look down when you walk? Shy away from eye contact when walking by people? Stop that. Just ... stop that. You don't need to stare down people as they go by or even have a strut when you're out and about but, at the very least, look up. This says so much about you (as does many aspects of your body language) on the first glance level. Just have your head up. It's a simple thing. Eye contact is brief, maybe a head nod/smile/something but it's not necessary for random passerbys.
The key to basically everything (social) in life is just having some confidence about you. And if you don't, then bullshit that you do. Eventually the bullshit will become reality.
This is honestly one of the reasons why I love (loved?) my drinking and partying days. Say what you will about the act of drinking all you want, it's great for loosening people up. I've seen so many "MY FEET ARE SUPER INTERESTING" wallflowers fucking bloom just by virtue of getting drunk and giving absolutely no fucks about what they did and cut loose and were themselves (or some version of themselves, anyway). The pretenses are gone and they just don't what people think on what they do/say.
Really though, a lot of this is pointless if only because thinking about what you do is kind of the root of the problem. You get lost in the thinking process and over think what you say, how you say it, etc. Ultimately, just build up some confidence so you can be you.
[spoiler]Someone somewhere will take that drinking bit the wrong way I know it~
Don't mean stupid-drunk-shenanigans but more no-fear-shenanigans. And even that's kind of wrong. The fake self-confidence and ability to just talk, act, and enjoy themselves; to be someone that isn't shy and meek. And, eventually, that shy person vanishes even without the drinking. They gain the self-confidence to be themselves.
Not that I'm advocating drinking, just recounting things I remember from the last few years of my life and seeing people change over time.[/spoiler]
[spoiler]also don't listen to the internetz[/spoiler]
Last edited by scy on Tue May 03, 2011 3:10 pm, edited 1 time in total.
Even if we aren't soul mates for life, the classes where you have friends in them are far more tolerable. My social class has like, 6-7 of my buddies in it, and it is a blast. Science, I'm sitting across from a total asshole who has come close to beating me up twice. 3 guesses to which class I enjoy more.
Also even if High School won't matter later, it does when you're in it.
Also even if High School won't matter later, it does when you're in it.
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