Rant/Complain Thread: u mad?

[Maxine MagicFox]

[Maxine MagicFox]

My current frustration stems from the fact that I have exhausted all the student loans for which I am eligible (a forseen problem when I took this second associates) and now that I'm balancing the little bit of money that I have, mom asks me for money to resurrect our minivan, a vehicle which I will be driving around since my sister is not going to be on the same schedule as I anymore.

I agreed - to the cost of getting the car INSPECTED and legal. A $50 or so affair as I budgeted it in. I give my mother my card to get the money from my account. Since neither of us had a clue as to the full cost of the thing, she withdrew $100 with the expectation that I would be getting at least $40 of it back. She comes home saying "oh, they were behind in orders and asked us to come tomorrow."

Whatever, that's fine. Then my dad reveals the car needs some kind of car part because he really is afraid it's not going to pass inspection. They go out to get the car part. When she gets home I receive the news that she used my $100 for this car part and that now she will pay for the inspection.

.... Do you have any real idea of how pissed off I am? How troubling this is for me? I have books that I have to pay for. I was already worried that the money I have left in my account and will be getting paid in the weeks to come would not be enough with my other bills. I was already planning on ordering from barnes and noble (once my school updates the list on the 16th with the books I will need) for cheaper prices and, on top of that, was already praying "please let the books not be too much and if they are PLEASE let me get away with one or two for a few weeks. please make me lucky."

I have no right to say anything however. It will just open up a can of worms and it will not be a pretty argument and just be end up being more detrimental to the situation.

I asked her, "Mom, I dunno if I will be able to afford my books now."
"I will help with whatever you need."
Just today "I think I'm going to need help."
"Well... blahblahblah this bill needs paid... blahblahblah I know your school comes first... blahblahblahblah well we'll see what happens, but I'm really not so sure."

This after the innumerable times I have helped her money wise. >_< Tia has treated me the same in the past. I like how I will give people money not asking for it back and expecting to own at LEAST few favors. It's stupid of me. I know those favors will never be repaid. But, it's just upsetting.

I really have no fucking idea what I'm going to do. Maybe I'll get lucky and it will be one of those teachers in these classes I have that will never open the book. ... However, I know my luck - it SUCKS. I don't know what I'm going to do and the worst part of it is, keeping my mouth shut about my frustrations over the damn situation. >_<

[noodles]

I'm sorry to hear all that <:(

I am lucky to parents who are entirely fiscally responsible and wouldn't dream of taking money from...from...their own kid.

If you're the one to be driving it, I don't know why they'd go so far as to do that, unless they are just really impulsive.

[Maxine MagicFox]

No, it's not like that. I don't pay room and board or anything at my parents. So, when they ask for money, I give it. As for the car, they fixed it up for me to drive around. So I was expected to put some sort of money into the project. Which is fine, but they took more money from me than they initially stated.

Fiscally responsible. *rolls eyes* yeah, my parents would never be guilty of THAT one. My mom is in charge of the bills and she gets confused easily. My dad, being Navy retired, is not use to dealing with bills, has never been responsible, and has no real intention of ever trying to help my mom with them. This turns into some pretty ugly fights in my house. One of those cycle things. Mom screws up > Mom gets pissed > Mom borrows money from one of us kids to pay for something > Gets mad at Dad > Turns into a big fight > Dad attempts to pretend to help out for the next week or two > Bills are good for another month until mom fucks up again > Cycle repeats.

<_< It makes me nervous. I hope I'm going to be better than my mom in this area. However... x_x in the past I've made a lot of fuck ups too with the few bills that I have to pay (student loans, gym membership, hospital bill, shit like that). T-T I have my mom's genes. So, seriously, I can't yell at her too much in this area. *sigh* -_-;

Seriously, though, noodles, aren't you expected to help out at ALL? o_O I mean, mom pays the electric bill, for example, but if it's way over than its normal amount, of course my parents are going to ask for help since we helped MAKE the bill in the first place (eh heh... my new AC put the bill up $10 more... I had to pay the extra to help out). Well, you are still pretty young, though, too. I'm 26. It's only expected. I SHOULD be out of the house paying rent and utilities, but mom only asks for the occasional money. I really do have NO RIGHT to complain.

Still, it was an unspoken law in my house that when we got jobs we would be expected to help out a little. Gas especially since we were using it. You don't have similar rules in your house?

(In all honesty, the rent-less rule goes/was formed like this: We have no money to put you kids through college. We understand that role, so in exchange, if you kids put yourselves through college, you can stay here as long as you like and we'll help out. We only ask that if expenses get too much you help out occasionally. We're a family and this is what we do. We help each other the best we can.)

[noodles]

[scy]

[noodles]

[eharper256]

Garages are masters of overcharging you. Its because of this I moved to the city so I can walk everywhere. So, so, SO much saved on car maintainence and extra exercise to boot (and buses are still options if feeling lazy).

Due to the financial dubiousness of my parents, whose answer to everything was get a new loan or re-mortgage, I'm rather glad I now live alone.

Still, I perpetually grimace whenever I'm in the bank, it seems... no new manga or games for me this month unless I get a sudden upturn in wages or booksales, LOL.

[Kinokokao]

I have a longer response to this when I have more time but, Maxine, why don't you try to get your books from Amazon? I'm terrified of what they're doing to the book industry, but undisputably you can find cheap textbooks there. Before buying new, investigate your used options. I find it hard to believe Barnes & Noble has the lowest prices if you have to order them anyway. As for shipping; Amazon's offering free Prime (which means free 2-day shipping) trials to .edu addresses or new accounts can always sign up.

[scy]

And there's almost always a free 3-month trial attached to books. You don't even have to actually place that order, just go to checkout, get the Prime trial started, and remove them from your cart.

...but, if you can do the free 1-year Amazon Prime for having a College E-Mail, I'd hop on that so fast right now.

[Maxine MagicFox]

[scy]

[Kinokokao]

[beekee]

[Twat]

Cool. Somebody dropped a bowl of food on my keyboard while I was in the middle of typing.